This could get interesting

[bonnie_rocks]

As seen elsewhere on the intertubes:

Anonymous comments are enabled for the next 72 hours indefinitely, and IPs are not being logged. Share something about you sexually: wants, experiences, preferences, fears. Anything goes, and yes, this applies even if you don't have a sex life right now. Confession is good for the soul.

The three disclaimers:

1) You may safely assume that the comments to this post contain text of an NC-17 nature. Treat accordingly.

2) The management reserves the right to cease operation of the confessional at any time. Drama and abusive language will not be tolerated.

3) Feel free to link to this post from your own journal. The more, the merrier.

I want to make it clear to anyone thinking of commenting, but are afraid that others will pass judgement: This is a kink-friendly and judgment-free space. The nature of this sort of confessional is that sometimes people will be confessing things that are difficult for them to talk about. As long as it's all consensual, it's all okay here.

Ok...GO!

~*::Meow::*~

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I used to have this problem. It took a few years but I learned that it's better to be completely upfront with people from the getgo, let them know that you don't want sex. More often than not, the other person will be ok with this. People who are not ok with it are probably just jerks and not worth it anyway.

[(Anonymous)]

"probably"?

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry. That should say Definitely. My bad.

[(Anonymous)]

I actually make it a point to state that upfront at the beginning of a date (if not earlier). But they still try. And they take my lack of resistance to mean it's okay. Like I was just joking before or suddenly changed my mind? I don't know. I blame myself. Maybe I was raped/molested in a past life.

[bonnie-rocks.livejournal.com]

I knew this would come in handy. A friend of a friend did a write about sexual consent. Please read it. It should really help you in a situation like this: On the subject of Sexual Consent (http://suricattus.livejournal.com/1278937.html)

~*::Meow::*~

[(Anonymous)]

Interesting read. Thanks. Though I think, more often than not, people are afraid to ask because they're afraid it will ruin the mood rather than because they're afraid the answer is no. And yes, stopping to ask "Is this okay?" does ruin the mood for a lot of people. In fact, I usually say "if you have to ask, the answer is no." Obviously ruining the mood is better than a potential rape situation, but there are nonverbal ways to ask for clear consent that keep the mood intact. They should teach that in high school or something.

[bonnie-rocks.livejournal.com]

They should teach that in high school or something.

If they taught *anything* about this in High School, I'd have been impressed. I really wish they would though. Then again, if they proposed to do just that, parents would be up in arms about it because their kids are innocent and pure and would *never* do something like have sex ::gasp::.

::Sigh::

~*::Meow::*~